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I am positively afraid of dieing. The though makes me want to cry, but another "wonderful" fear has come up: blood and flesh and bones. The fragility of the human body. I am terrified of pain, of anything that could possibly hurt me. I can't stand to see others in pain, and it's horrid. I want to watch scary movies CX but every time someone starts bleeding or even trips I want to look away. I've somehow convinced myself something that has worsened my fear of death: that death is VERY painful, and that pain... Hurts. Pain hurts. It's scary, I don't want to get hurt because I might die. Part of this might have to do with I've never felt really bad pain before. I've never been stung by a wasp or broken a bone, and I never want to. My sis broke 2 bones and had to get stitches and has been sting by a bee. I don't want to accept I have this fear, I want to get rid of it. Help?

08-23-2013 at 5:44 AM

Thanks :) that helped alot.

08-22-2013 at 6:50 PM

MidTwill's advice is very good. As for shock, I can testify that it works. After breaking a few bones (mostly as the result of being an idiot), I have found that after the initial stab of pain, endorphins and adrenaline take over and give both your mind and body the ability to cope with the pain. It's not a good thing, of course, but it certainly teaches you about your ability to endure and overcome adversity. I don't know if it's the same for everyone, but each time I have injured myself seriously enough to need medical attention, something in me has taken over that is calm and totally in control. Rather than panic because I'm hurt and in a lot of pain, I am able to stay on top of the situation and figure out the best way to help myself. I honestly think this is simple biological instinct: the organism is compromised, so it's up to the intelligent brain to figure out the best and fastest solution to the problem. In a nutshell, I think your biggest fear is fear itself. You are so afraid of pain that you're not willing to experience it, and like most fears, I think that you will be able to handle the actual sensation better than you think when you rationally consider its implications. Basically, pain does hurt. It's your body's way of telling your mind that something is wrong and needs attention. As for death, though, I can tell you this: it's normal for anything alive to fear death. And I have been through the pain of a wrist broken in three places, a broken collarbone, a severed artery, labor and and emergency Caesarean section (MAJOR abdominal surgery), and three muscle biopsies without anesthetic. At the time I was experiencing the pain of each of these, death was the furthest thing from my mind. Foremost on my mind was living. Again, it's biology. Your body wants to live and will fight to stay alive even without input from your brain, to the point that your thinking mind starts to respond the same way. Essentially, as a biological organism, you are an optimist whether you like it or not. Your body wants to stay alive and heal its hurts. That can be an incredibly powerful force. I hope this helps, and doesn't scare you any further. Really, I think because you have never experienced bad pain, you're making it worse than it is. The imagination is always worse than the actual thing. And, believe it or not, accepting that you're afraid of something goes a long way to getting rid of it. I sure wish you the best!

08-7-2013 at 3:10 PM

Thanks :) I talked to my mom and she told me about this wonderful thing called shock. Your post is very helpful as well. Anyone else?

08-7-2013 at 12:06 PM

The best thing to do is to realize that the pain eventually stops. I've been stung by bees, wasps, and yellow jackets, I've sprained my ankle and even steped on a nail. The pain eventually stoped each time. Not everything that causes pain will cause you to die. And no pain of any kind last forever.

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